Let It Go…Making Peace With Your Past
“Everybody’s got a past. The past does not equal the future unless you live there.”
~ Tony Robbins
A past – we all have one.
It is when we allow that past to stand in the way of our future that it becomes a problem.
Emotional baggage – we all have that too. Perhaps it was an event or experience that took place 10 years ago or even yesterday. Perhaps it is something you still struggle with today; no matter where you go or how you fill your time, it’s there, rearing its ugly head when you least expect it.
You’re not good enough.
Why did it have to happen to me?
How can I stop feeling this way?
We’ve all had or still have our inner battles, some more than others. But what’s important to remember is that this is something everyone struggles with at some time or another. If this is true for your today, then one thing that you should never fall into the trap of thinking is that you are alone. Because you are far from it.
However, if you are struggling to let go of any baggage from your past then you do need to do something about it. Sooner rather than later. When you’re stuck in the past it can affect your relationships, your day to day life, another obstacle is placed between you and living the life you’ve always wanted.
So what can you do?
Change the Story
When we are struggling to break free from the binds of our past, it is often because we have chosen to buy into a story. It could be that we are simply not good enough or are perhaps unworthy of love.
The thing to remember is that these ‘stories’ are nothing more than just that – they are the fiction of your mind, based only on your experiences and events from your past. You created them and hence, you can break them.
And you must break them.
Because ask yourself, if you continue to live under the illusion of this story you have given your life, how is anything ever going to change? How many opportunities for love and happiness are you going to miss out on? What kind of exciting opportunities are you going to let slip through your fingers?
We mistakenly believe that these stories we have given ourselves are going to protect us from any future hurt. That by holding onto the past, no matter how painful that may be, we will be able to prevent anything bad from happening in our future.
But that’s not how it works.
Start to see your story for what it is – a paralyzing lie created by fear. And then and only then, will you find that you are able to let it go…
Letting Go For Good
So you want to overcome your demons for good, to get from where you are now to where you want to be. It may sound like the hardest thing in the world, but once you’re able to see your emotional baggage or – your ‘story’ – exactly for what it is, it’s easier than you might expect.
The key is to forgive. Not only those who may have wronged you – be it one individual, several people or even a system – but most importantly of all yourself.
Know that you are safe and that you are worthy. Recognize that there is nothing even to forgive; there was yesterday but now there is today.
Don’t struggle against your past when it comes up for you, simply see it for what it is – pause, breath and then let it go.
When you are forced to think about the person you once were, send love their way and then look ahead to the person who you are becoming instead. The same goes for other people from your past.
Send out love. Let it go.
It is a gradual process, but with time you will find that excitement and happiness for the here and now, free from pain of the past, is what fills your experiences.
Is there something you’re struggling to let go of? How have you learnt to let go in the past? Share your thoughts in the comments below.