Dealing With Liars: How To Get Over Betrayal And Trust Again
Have you ever felt betrayed by someone? Maybe you have felt hurt and did not know where to turn to for comfort. Or, you could have let the betrayal take over your life and your emotions. Betrayal could come from anyone, it could be from your partner, your best friend or a family member. But do you wonder how to get over betrayal and finally trust them again?
When betrayal occurs you can find yourself feeling overwhelmed with your emotions and not sure what you should do to cope with the betrayal. You may find yourself asking ‘should you forgive, or forget?’ It’s easy to make rash decisions or get lost in your emotions. This is why it’s important to assess your situation and know what is the best way for you to deal with your betrayal.
How To Get Over Betrayal: 5 Steps To Take Right now
If you have been betrayed by someone, you may be feeling helpless, angry or stressed. It’s hard to know what to do to make yourself better, which is why I am going to discuss some ways that will help you to get over the betrayal. Take a look at my 5 ways to help you learn how to get over the betrayal, think about what will help you and give them a try; the worst thing to do is nothing at all.
1. Make A Plan For Emotional Recovery
You need to know what is best for your own recovery and having a plan and knowing what you are going to do next will really help you in dealing with betrayal.
Take a step back from the situation and try not to dwell or own the betrayal, the betrayal itself says nothing about you. Try and plan how you want to deal with the situation, whether you are going to forgive and forget or forgive and move on.
It is not healthy to hold all of these feelings and emotions to yourself so a good way to help with this, is to find someone you can confide in, maybe a family member, or even writing a journal. It helps to know what you are going to do to help yourself with your emotional recovery.
2. Detach From People You Don’t Trust
If you feel someone is untrustworthy it is worth staying away from them.
If you know that they are someone who will break your trust or is likely to betray you, it is not worth staying and putting yourself in a harmful situation. Doing this will only lead you to feel hurt. It can also cause you to start to distrust others once a betrayal has happened to you.
You can control who you spend your time with, so make sure they are worthy of your time and treat you with the respect that you deserve. If you can spend time with people who you can trust and keep you positive you will feel a lot better.
3. Take Time For Yourself
When someone betrays you there are a lot of different emotions that you have to deal with, which can be very difficult. This can be particularly hard when you still have to be around the person who has betrayed you. If this is your partner, it is probably worth asking for space and taking some time apart.
Hang around with other people who you can confide in and will help you to stay positive. It’s also good to take care of yourself when you are alone, it may be worth having a look at my self-care ideas to get you started.
4. Avoid Retaliation
You are probably already aware of the saying ‘Two wrongs don’t make a right’. This is still very true when it comes to speaking about betrayal.
When someone has hurt you it is very easy to feel angry and make a hasty decision (if you want to know more about dealing with anger take a look at my anger management tips).
Anger and violence is not the answer, and will also only make you feel worse. Retaliation will cause you more grief and anger, it is not a good way to deal with betrayal.
If you can take control of your feelings and not let the betrayal take over, you can find many more positive ways of dealing with a betrayal that will benefit you.
5. Choose To Forgive
Forgiving can be one step that you take in dealing with your betrayal. If you can forgive that person, and let go of the negative feelings that you have you will start to feel much better. You will most likely be able to do this after you have taken some time for yourself.
However, forgiving does not always mean rebuilding a relationship with that person. It could be letting go of the negative feelings you have and moving on. Whether you want to rebuild a relationship or let go, you still need to forgive by letting go of the negative feelings you have and not holding on to the betrayal.
Learn To Trust Again And Remove Negativity From Your Life
The problem with negativity is that it is all around us. It comes from media, family, friends, and even our own thoughts.
– Joe Vitale, Clearing Negativity From Your Life
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