7 Things To Remember When You’re Having Negative Thoughts
We’re all struck by negative thoughts sometimes. However, if you’re working with the Law of Attraction then negative thinking can make the difference between successfully manifesting and failing to manifest.
Here are seven things to remember the next time you’re having negative thoughts—consider how you can work them into a concrete action plan that helps you destroy your pessimistic mindset for good.
1. Reframing Is Powerful
One of the most useful tools in your positivity arsenal is the ability to reframe your negative thoughts into positive ones. You can begin to practice this skill using minor negative thoughts—for example, “I don’t think anyone will like me at the party” becomes “I’m sure to find at least one person I get along with at the party.”
In time, you’ll find you can reframe more significant limiting beliefs—“I’m too scared to face everyone at this job interview” becomes “Everyone finds it nerve-wracking to attend an interview, but I know I can present my best self.”
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2. Your Life Is Your Responsibility
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself”. ~Jim Rohn
If you catch yourself thinking negatively about your agency, viewing yourself as a victim, remind yourself that your life is within your control. You’re not stuck in unhappiness, no matter how it might feel.
However, what you send out to the universe determines what you get back, and if you think you’re stuck then you’ll get more and more signs that you are stuck. The happy truth is that there is always a way out, so commit to brainstorming and start figuring out how to turn your biggest and most exciting dreams into reality.
3. It’s Okay To Release Your Feelings
“Sometimes you can hurt yourself more than anyone can hurt you just by keeping all your feelings hidden”. ~Unknown
Trying to be upbeat all the time when you don’t really feel like it can really backfire. While it’s healthy to dedicate energy and enthusiasm to the fight against negativity, don’t confuse this with repressing negativity. It’s so important to feel free to express difficult feelings, whether in a journal or in person (with a therapist or a close friend).
Be honest and congruent about where you are emotionally, and then let go of those dark feelings. The trick is to acknowledge negativity, and then find ways to move on from it—pushing it down only makes it more toxic, allowing it to influence your subconscious in ways you may not expect.
4. You Can Throw Negativity Away
“However you tag your thoughts — as trash or as worthy of protection — seems to make a difference in how you use those thoughts”. ~Richard Petty
On a related note, it’s worth taking a tip from a 2012 Ohio State University study on how to combat negativity. Specifically, research has shown that writing down a negative thought and then throwing it in the trash can actually influence self-image within just a few minutes.
In contrast, there was no such improvement for study participants who wrote down their negative thoughts and then kept the pieces of paper on their person. A related research project has even found similar thoughts associated with typing negative thoughts into a word processing document and then dragging it into your computer’s trashcan!
5. No One Is Perfect
No one's perfect and you just have to accept your flaws and learn to love yourself. ~Kelly Brook
A lot of the most common forms of negative thinking revolve around unrealistically high standards. The next time you are feeling low or doubting your own abilities because you’re not perfect, remember that no one is.
We’re all a work in progress, and you can rest assured that you possess some wonderful, unique traits that many people would love to have. Any time you need a quick pick-me-up, jot down five things about you that tend to draw compliments from others—this will serve as a reminder of your value.
Alternatively, just remind yourself of the aspects of your character that do generally make you feel proud and happy, regardless of whether anyone else has commented on them.
6. You’re Not Defined By Your Past
“You're not defined by your past, you're prepared by it. You're stronger, more experienced, and you have greater confidence”. ~Joel Osteen
The past plays a huge role in shaping us, but don’t let it make you believe that you’re destined for a life of unhappiness. Sure, you may have faced a lot of challenges or even endured a lot of heartbreak, but all that means is that you’re stronger as a result.
Try to expect the best from the future, and know that you are more than your personal history—you have a chance to rewrite your personal script and live the life you truly want.
7. You Can Internalize A Friendly Voice
“Be kind to yourself”.
Finally, it can be very useful to recognize the difference between the negative things you say to yourself and the way other people would actually talk to you. The next time you have a negative thought, first ask yourself if anyone who genuinely cares about you would say that.
Then, move on to asking yourself what a really good friend would say in your defense if they heard that negative appraisal spoken out loud. Return to this imagined friendly voice as often as you need to—eventually, it may well just become your own internal voice.