Want To Be Happy? Why Giving Up May Be the Best Thing You Ever Do
When we want to be happier, wealthier or are looking to improve our lives in some way or another – we look for new ways to ‘fill-up’ our lives. We take on new habits, develop new skills, buy new books or clothes. It seems the more familiar old stuff we surround ourselves with, the safer we feel.
Well not anymore… Rather than collecting and clinging to the things that do nothing for your happiness, why not give up some of the things you already have?
Say goodbye to the things that no longer serve you… throw them into the wind!
Don’t be too surprised if the prospect of giving something up causes you to tremble in your very shoes. Many of us spend our lives holding onto and surrounding ourselves with unnecessary clutter; clutter coming in the form of old habits, thought processes, belief systems, people, fears… (and I was guilty of this too. Watch my video here to learn how I managed to turn my life around).
What clutter are you allowing to hold you back from the life you deserve? Because if there is any, it’s time you gave it up for good.
Are you up for the challenge? Brilliant…here we go!
Here are 10 things for you to give up, starting today:
Excuses? Tell them where to go! Looking back over the course of your life, how many times do you think excuses have been to blame for holding you back from what you wanted to do most?
Many of us are guilty of using excuses on an almost daily basis; using them as a way to feel ‘safe’. Let them go.
2. Give Up The Blame Game
Your life, your responsibility. Your happiness, your responsibility. Give up the need to blame others for how you are or are not feeling, for what your life is or is not. Do this and reclaim your power as sole creator of your life.
3. Give Up Complaining
If you’re going to allow yourself to complain, you would always, always, always find things to complain about. So give it up; no situation, no person, no event has the power to make you feel bad – unless you let it.
It’s all about perspective; the power of positive thinking is something you should never underestimate.
4. Give Up Your Need To Be Right
Yes, nobody likes to be wrong – this is an unfortunate trait of the ‘ego’ – a trait that can drive people to undergo extreme stress and even jeopardize their relationships. All for the sake of saying ‘I told you so!’ It’s just not worth it. So give it up.
The next time you feel yourself itching for an argument just ask yourself, ‘would I rather be right or would I rather do the right thing?’ You’ll be surprised at just how much better the latter feels.
5. Give Up Your Need For Control
‘The moment I jumped off of it was / The moment I touched down’ – Alanis Morissette
Choose to give up your need to control everything that happens to you and around you. Events, situations, the people you love, outcomes – let them all just be.
Your attention is needed nowhere other than the present moment, so allow yourself to just stick with that and see how much better you feel for it.
The moment you stop trying to control everything in your life could be the moment it all comes together – promise.
6. Give Up Limiting Beliefs
Who are you to say what is or is not possible? You are an unlimited being, you make the rules – so make them BIG! From now on, give up all limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck for so long.
Give up these and make greater room, for bigger, bolder dreaming.
7. Give Up Labels
Do you sometimes label the things, people or experiences you don’t understand as ‘weird’ or ‘bad’? If so, it’s about time you gave up labels.
A closed mind makes for a safe, unhappy life. Open your mind little by little and who knows where it may take you?
8. Give Up The Need To Please
You have one life only; why not live it as you? Give up your need to please everyone. An authentic life is a happy one – so stop trying so hard to please other people and start thinking about what it is that you want.
9. Give Up Fear
As Franklin D. Roosevelt once said, ‘The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.’
Fear itself doesn’t exist; it is a symptom, a result of our upbringings, society and the imposed experiences and belief systems of others. So give it up.
Stop letting fear keep you small when you’re capable of such big, miraculous things.
10. Give Up The Past
Easier said than done – but giving up the past can do wonders for both your present and future happiness. Whilst it can be tempting to yearn for past, happier times or even mourn the unhappier moments, doing this means you’re missing out on the only important thing in your life – the here and now.
So, stop letting the past cast a shadow over what you have right now. Be in the moment. Be happy. Give up the past and give in to the now.
What will you give up?