Feeling Lost? What To Do When Everything Falls Apart And Life Sucks
Sudden illness, business challenges, heartbreak, impossible situations…
When it comes to life, no one is immune to the many ‘bumps’ and ‘cracks’ in the road. We’ve all experienced our fair share of darn-right ‘sucky’ situations, some a lot more than others. But what should you do when life leaves you in a head-spin and no matter where you look, everything seems to… well… suck?
No matter how strong we may consider ourselves to be, from time to time we all find ourselves facing tough situations that can leave us feeling overwhelmed and lost.
Perhaps you’re in a similar situation right now? You’re feeling vulnerable and unable to find your way out of a seemingly bleak scenario. Maybe you truly believe right now that life sucks.
If this IS the case for you, then for starters, know that you are not alone. We all lose our way at some time or another. If this is your situation right now, then reach out to those around you. You never know, there could be others in your close circle going through a similar experience.
You may feel helpless right now but you’re in fact far from it.
When everything does seem to be falling apart, consider these four simple practices your lifeline, to help pull you back into normality once again.
4 Motivational Quotes About Not Giving Up
1. ‘Sometimes Good Things Fall Apart So Better Things Can Fall Together’
Remember these wonderfully wise words from beauty icon, Marilyn Monroe? Every problem, every obstacle, and every heartbreak… when you experience the ‘bad’, do you ever stop and ask yourself what good may come out of it?
Whilst it may not feel like it at the time, sometimes, the universe takes things away from us to make room for bigger, better things. In every misfortune, you will soon find that there is a reason to feel even more fortunate than you were before. It could be in the form of a valuable life lesson, personal growth, or new relationships/opportunities/successes…
‘Everything happens for a reason’… It may be the biggest cliché in the book, but it’s a cliché worth remembering!
2. ‘Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional’
In life, pain and hurt are inevitable. However, as Haruki Murakami says, whilst ‘pain is inevitable', ‘suffering is optional’.
Pain is part of being human; however, it is how we choose to think and act both during and after that experience of pain that determines our happiness. A lot of people can make the mistake of bottling up their pain; they are afraid to feel their hurt and might often try and mask it. Whilst this is perfectly natural, doing this only prolongs the experience and ultimately, results in suffering.
Learn to accept your feelings as they are. Process them. Then, when the time is right, you need to make a choice, ‘I’m in pain right now… am I going to embrace this and try to move forward with my life, or am I going to dwell on it and allow myself to suffer?’ It’s not always easy, but you know what you have to do.
3. ‘Yesterday Is History, Tomorrow Is A Mystery, Today IS…’
It’s said time and time again here at the Law of Attraction site, there is no greater gift than the here and now.
Feeling lost? Observe yourself right now, in the present moment. Are you breathing? Is your heart beating? If the answer is ‘yes!’, then you’re doing great. When life throws you a curveball, your only concern should be the here and now. Break things down into manageable chunks, tackle each moment as it comes.
When we’re feeling lost, anxious, and unable to find our way, guilt from the past and fretting for the future is usually at the root of the problem. When everything feels out of your control, you always know there’s one thing you can trust in, the present moment.
4. ‘If You Don’t Like Something, Change It. If You Can’t Change It, Change Your Attitude’
These may seem harsh words from Maya Angelou but really think about it. If you are the creator of your life, then you need to take responsibility for your feelings.
In a world where many things are seemingly out of our control, it is important to remember that there is one thing we are always in control of… our words. The words that create our thoughts, the words that tell our story… the stories we tell ourselves to dictate the way we feel.
If you’re unhappy about something, change it with your words. Tell yourself a happier, lighter, freeing story of how things are. More often than not, even the slightest shift in attitude can result in the biggest of breakthroughs. So, when everything seems to suck, be sure to remember these four simple strategies for positive, forward action.
If everything is already fine and dandy in your life right now, then that’s great! But remember to keep these practices tucked away, safe in the ‘break only in an emergency’ box at the back of your mind. Do this and the next time you’re feeling a little lost you can rest assured that you’ll be back on track in no time.