Do You Invest Too Much Time Trying to ‘Fit In’? You Won’t After Reading This…
How much time do you spend trying to ‘fit in’? Trying to be like everybody else? Moulding yourself to meet the standards of the status quo?
Too many people waste their time striving to conform to the ‘norm’. They may tone down their opinions, dull their personalities, stifle their laugh, bury their needs or most commonly of all – change their appearance, to better fit in with society’s current definition of beauty (whatever that is).
Basically, a lot of us are changing the very essence of who we are, in order to keep up with a notion that doesn’t even exist.
The notion that is – being ‘normal’.
But what does it actually mean to be ‘normal’?
And is our pursuit to be seen as ‘normal’ even a worthwhile one?
I’ll let you decide for yourself…
Here’s what, by today’s standards, it means to be ‘normal’.
1. Believing that money is more important than happiness.
2. Forgetting what makes you happy; in order to pursue a career that sucks you dry but pays the bills.
3. Saving you dreams until retirement – when you no longer have the energy to pursue them anyway.
4. Believing that the experiences and opinions of others must be your own.
5. Avoiding talking to or connecting with strangers.
6. Being afraid of anyone or anything that is different.
7. Going to extreme lengths – surgery, starvation, and injecting poison into our faces – in order to fit in with somebody else’s definition of beauty.
8. Believing everything that you see in the media.
9. Viewing overly emotional displays as something to be ashamed of. Saying ‘I’m sorry’ for crying.
10. Never laughing too loudly in public.
11. Standing on a crowded train carriage, and taking pain-staking care not to have to make eye-contact or talk to the person next to you (even if you are practically nose to nose).
12. Eating three meals a day – whether you’re hungry or not.
13. Using your car as a reason to act aggressively towards others.
14. Working 9 to 5, every day, in a job that makes you want to die.
15. Numbing pain with television.
16. Stereotyping gender. Women don’t make good company CEOs and men don’t cry…
17. Blaming other people for everything going wrong in your life.
18. Staying with someone that doesn’t make you happy, because something better may never come along. Plus, ‘normal’ dictates that you ought to be married by 30 with children, and time is running out…
19. Believing that ‘kindness’ and ‘compassion’ are synonymous with ‘weak’ and ‘push-over’.
20. Laughing at or feeling sorry for anyone who chooses to live outside of the ‘norm’.
So there you have it, some definitions of what it means to be ‘normal’.
Still interested in fitting in? I thought not…
If you’ve ever been called ‘strange’, ‘odd’ or been laughed at for staying true to yourself and following your own path – take this as a compliment.
And always, always be sure to live your own life – not your idea of somebody else’s.