Differences Between A Soulmate And A Life Partner
It’s common to conflate the idea of a soul mate with that of a life partner—you might think they’re exactly the same thing, or that any difference between the two concepts is purely academic.
However, a life partner is someone trustworthy and dependable with whom you spend significant time, while a soulmate is a person who arrives in your life specifically to enrich it, encourage your development and push you to grow into a higher state of consciousness. Both are incredibly important!
Here are the main ways to discern between a life partner and a soulmate.
A Soulmate Teaches You A Vital Lesson
A soulmate can be a friend, a lover, or even a family member, so it’s important to let go of the idea that there’s necessarily a romantic connection. That being said, they always inspire passion of some sort, and nudge you towards fulfilling some aspect of your potential.
Many times, they will leave your life in one way or another once you’ve learned the important lesson they’re there to impart—and this can hurt a great deal, but doesn’t negate their status as a soulmate.
In contrast, a life partner shares your interests, supports you, and helps to empower you to take risks. They are likely to be with you in the long haul, regardless of challenges encountered, and they share a profound and reciprocal bond with you (one that has nothing to do with what they “get” out of the relationship).
The Connection Is Poles Apart
The kind of connection you have with a soul mate involves the heart and consciousness. As such, the relationship you have with this type of person is intense, constantly involving, beautiful and likely to involve hurt as well as joy.
The lessons that soul mates teach will improve your life and transform you into an elevated form of yourself, but going through those lessons can be both exhausting and exhilarating!
On the other hand, the connection you have with a life partner usually develops when you are both already in a state of self-love and self-acceptance. This is a more peaceful kind of kinship, and it is often the turmoil experienced with a soulmate that creates the space for this type of bond with a life partner.
Intuitive Understanding Vs. Growing Understanding
When you meet a soulmate, you will feel like you’ve known each other for your whole life. Somehow, without ever having encountered each other before in your present incarnations, you intuitively understand how each other thinks, feels and approaches life.
There is typically an overlap in your childhood experiences, bolstering the sense of intensity. You feel known by each other, and this leads to a magnetic attraction. The positive side of this is a sense of understanding and a feeling of being truly alive, but the trickier side is that the two of you probably also mirror each other’s flaws and more difficult habits.
Meanwhile, your life partner probably comes from a different background, creating curiosity in both directions. You feel comfortable around each other, and this eases you into a deep and abiding friendship or love that feels like it’s constantly evolving.
Emotional Vs. Logical Stimulation
The primary type of stimulation you’ll experience with a soulmate is emotional—you often don’t need words to communicate your needs, desires and ideas. You just know each other, and the connection is constant and effortless.
With a life partner, you’ll primarily enjoy intellectual stimulation—a more stable, but equally enjoyable way of engaging and maintaining your interest. A physical attraction may exist in both cases, but it will be driven by a craving for fusion in the case of a soulmate and by curiosity about contrasts in the case of a life partner.
The Timing Of The Meeting Differs
Soulmates show up in your life when you somehow need to find closure of some sort and desperately need to a learn a specific lesson if you’re going to evolve. The resulting experience is ecstatic, causing you to encounter both the best and worst about yourself.
In contrast, a life partner shows up in your life when you’re ready for something easy, soothing, and capable of focusing on the present moment. A life partner can often make a wonderful spouse, as a healthy marriage is typically based on a willingness to be “one” in a sense while remaining interestingly distinct at the same time.
Finally, note that it’s possible for your soulmate to be your life partner as well, and that it’s possible for a life partner to develop a profound connection with you. The crucial distinction is that you can choose a life partner and you cannot choose a soulmate. However, neither is better than the other—and while a soulmate creates more profound change, that’s not to say there’s nothing to learn from a life partner!