12 Things To Remember The Next Time You ‘Mess Up’
Are you too quick to judge or get angry with yourself?
When you’re having ‘one of those days’ or it feels as though lately, you’ve been making mistake after mistake, it can be easy to fall into a victim mentality or give yourself a hard time. But this can be exhausting, not to mention completely counter-productive. After all, when did feeling sorry for yourself ever get anyone anywhere? The answer is, never.
When we believe that we’ve messed up – made a mistake, taken the wrong action or failed at something – it can be hard knowing where to go from here. We can allow ourselves to be consumed by our guilt, or become paralyzed with the fear that we’ll make the same mistake again.
But should we really be so hard on ourselves?
Here are 12 things to remember the next time you ‘mess up’:
1. You didn’t know then, but you know now. Our choices and actions are always nothing more than a reflection of what we knew at the time. It’s easy to say ‘I should have chosen to ‘so and so’ or not done ‘this or that’’ after you’ve already messed up, but you didn’t know then what you know now. That’s why we make mistakes, to learn from them.
2. In the vast majority of cases, it could have been worse. A lot worse.
3. Everything passes – eventually.
4. It’s ok to not always be on top of your game. In fact, it’s recommended. Try using the term ‘should’ a little less often and you’ll feel all the better for it.
5. Your thoughts/actions/choices are not responsible for every bad thing that happens in your life. Some things are just outside of your control; this is something we all need to make peace with.
6. Time does heal. There is nothing, nothing, that you cannot feel better about with time.
7. It’s not about how hard you fall, but how quick you are to get back up.
8. If you fail to keep your cool about the small things, then you’re going to be in real trouble when you’re faced with the real, big life problems. Choose your fights carefully.
9. Blame gets a person nowhere. So put an end to the pity party and ask yourself, what can I do to grow and move forward form this situation/
10. Everybody has a past. We all have stories. It’s called life.
11. A lot of good can come from learning to laugh at yourself. So turn your mishaps into amusing anecdotes. Or – remember that story that leaves you red faced and squirming? Why not laugh at it now? Laughter can cure anything.
12. We all mess up sometimes; the majority of the time, what we consider to be failure, isn’t really failing at all. It’s simply being human.
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