12 Things To Remember The Next Time You ‘Mess Up’
Are you too quick to judge or get angry with yourself?
When you’re having ‘one of those days’ or it feels as though lately, you’ve been making mistake after mistake, it can be easy to fall into a victim mentality or give yourself a hard time. But this can be exhausting, not to mention completely counter-productive. After all, when did feeling sorry for yourself ever get anyone anywhere? The answer is, never.
When we believe that we’ve messed up – made a mistake, taken the wrong action or failed at something – it can be hard knowing where to go from here. We can allow ourselves to be consumed by our guilt, or become paralyzed with the fear that we’ll make the same mistake again.
But should we really be so hard on ourselves?
Here are 12 things to remember the next time you ‘mess up’:
1. You didn’t know then, but you know now.
Our choices and actions are always nothing more than a reflection of what we knew at the time. It’s easy to say ‘I should have chosen to ‘so and so’ or not done ‘this or that’’ after you’ve already messed up, but you didn’t know then what you know now.
That’s why we make mistakes, to learn from them.
2. In the vast majority of cases, it could have been worse.
Normally, we feel like whatever we have made a mistake in, is the worst thing we could have done. But, that's not always the case. Try and remind yourself that it could have been a lot worse and start to look at your ‘mess up' a little more realistically.
3. Everything passes – eventually.
You will forget about this mistake at some point. And so will everyone else. More often than not, you will be thinking about it more than anyone else will.
4. It’s ok to not always be on top of your game.
In fact, it’s recommended. Try using the term ‘should’ a little less often and you’ll feel all the better for it. You can't always win in some things and learning from your mistakes is all part of life and improving.
5. Your thoughts/actions/choices are not responsible for every bad thing that happens in your life.
Some things are just outside of your control; this is something we all need to make peace with. Try to be more focused on how you react to certain things in your life because you cannot control them happening, but you can control how you react to bad things in your life.
6. Time does heal.
There is nothing, nothing, that you cannot feel better about with time. Time doesn't stop for you, and after a certain amount of time, you should start to feel better.
7. It’s not about how hard you fall, but how quick you are to get back up.
Try to recognize that any mistakes that you might make are opportunities for you to learn and improve from. Come back stronger and you should forget about the rest.
8. If you fail to keep your cool about the small things, then you’re going to be in real trouble when you’re faced with the real, big life problems.
Choose your fights carefully. If you can learn how to deal with the small things, then you can learn to handle big problems even better too.
9. Blame gets a person nowhere.
So put an end to the pity party and ask yourself, what can I do to grow and move forward from this situation.
10. Everybody has a past.
We all have stories. It’s called life. Everyone makes mistakes and nobody is perfect. Try not to beat yourself up so much and understand that everyone goes through the same things as you do, some even worse.
11. A lot of good can come from learning to laugh at yourself.
So turn your mishaps into amusing anecdotes. Or – remember that story that leaves you red-faced and squirming? Why not laugh at it now? Laughter can cure anything.
12. We all mess up sometimes; the majority of the time, what we consider to be a failure, isn’t really failing at all.
It’s simply being human. Again, when we mess up, it shouldn't necessarily be seen as a bad thing. You can learn from your mistakes and grow even stronger.
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