8 Things To Remember When Everything Goes Wrong
Sometimes, it just feels like nothing in your world is going right. However, whether you’re suffering from ill health, encountering setbacks in your career or nursing a broken heart, it’s possible to connect with gratitude and transform your attitude.
After all, happiness is not found in the absence of problems but in the ability to deal with problems. Here are 8 things to remember the next time you feel like everything has gone wrong.
1. Pain Helps You Grow
Although pain is challenging, it never comes into your life without a purpose. So often, it’s a sign that you need to move forward in some way—even though it can be very challenging to leave outdated parts of your life behind. In addition, remind yourself that pain isn’t a sign of failure.
On the contrary, most great success stories involve bearing pain along the way. Pain can hurt you and it can change you, but you can find personal growth in both types if you stop resisting them and instead ask what they have to teach you. Everything will come together in the end.
2. Nothing Is Permanent
Just as the rain always stops and darkness follows light, healing always follows hurt. Don’t make the mistake of imagining that your pain will last forever—nothing does, whether it’s good or it’s bad. Every passing moment is a new chance to make the best of your life, and to enact huge changes.
Accepting the impermanence of everything helps you to let go of your own intentions in a way that helps the universe give you what you really need. Plus, just because you’re struggling with a challenge doesn’t mean you can’t find ways to laugh and smile.
3. You Can’t Change Anything By Worrying
It’s easy to obsess over painful events in your life, but you can only find happiness when you turn away from complaining about your problems and move towards being grateful for all the problems you don’t have.
There’s compelling evidence to suggest that the people who spend the most time worrying actually accomplish the least. Instead of doing nothing and fretting about things out of your control, ask what you can control and attempt to do something great with the resources you have.
4. Be Proud Of Your Scars
Your scars can be sources of pride—they’re symbols of your inner strength. When you’re scarred, you know that a wound has closed. In other words, you suffered pain, learning something from it, were resilient enough to recover, and began to move forward.
Don’t let your scars evoke fear, or feel paralyzed that you might gain more scars in the future. Those who have endured pain are among the strongest people there are, and your scars prove you can handle anything life throws at you.
Developing patience means being able to maintain a positive attitude as you continually work hard to achieve your dreams. To accomplish great things, you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone—and when you step out of your comfort zone, you naturally encounter challenges that can sometimes feel like failures.
These tests of your determination can be helpfully viewed as steps on the road to success, however, and not signs that you’ll never make it to your desired destination.
6. You’re Not Responsible For The Negativity Of Others
Combat negativity with positivity—hold onto your idea of who you want to be, and refuse to be changed by those who are bitter, jealous or trying to use you to work through their own complex issues.
If you’re going to change, do so because you want to be better in some way, and are looking to cultivate a better future. There’s no way to make everyone else happy, so don’t waste your time trying. You only get one chance to live, so spend that time with people who understand reciprocity—people who treat you right, make you smile and build you up.
7. What’s Meant To Be Will Find A Way
Trust in the universe to bring you the right things. No amount of trying to force a certain outcome will make it happen, and doing so will only make you miserable and drive you crazy.
Stop doubting every step you take, and instead allow yourself to enjoy the way your life will unfold. It may not always develop in the way you thought it would, but it will take you to where you need to go.
8. Keep Going At All Costs
Finally, when you catch yourself thinking that everything has gone wrong, don’t be afraid to get right back up and try again. Whether trying again involves daring to dream, trying to find love or starting a whole new career, don’t let your past pain harden your heart.
Although you may have to scramble to get out of your current rut, it can be done—and you will do it! Just know that very often, you have to go through the worst life has to offer in order to eventually arrive at the very best.