8 Things You Need To Know About Introverts
Whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, this influences what raises and lowers your vibration, so understanding these different personality types can help you design a Law of Attraction plan that works for you. So what is an introvert?
There are a lot of unhelpful stereotypes about introverts. For example, they’re not all reclusive hermits. Nor are they necessarily antisocial and pessimistic people who don’t care about building relationships.
Whether you’re an introvert yourself, you’re trying to understand an introverted loved one or you’re an introvert who wants to improve your ability to connect with those who are a little more reserved, here are eight things that you need to know in order to understand introverts.
Introversion Isn’t The Same As Shyness
The key difference between introverts and extroverts isn’t their ability to be social. There’s such a thing as a gregarious introvert. There is also such a thing as a shy extrovert.
Where introverts part ways from extroverts is in the way they gain in lose energy. Specifically, introverts replenish their energy stores by spending time alone. Then that energy is drained by social interaction (while the opposite is true of extroverts).
If you’re an introvert, try socializing in short bursts rather than planning long days out with others.
Introverts Thrive In Smaller Groups
Introverts may look like they don’t really like people, because they may stand to one side or seem irritated or tired in large groups. However, these very same individuals may seem absolutely delighted and engaged in small groups.
Introverts blossom in the company of a few people who really get them.
Don’t push yourself to love parties and music festivals if you’d rather just have a drink with a single friend or have a couple around for dinner. Both forms of socializing are equally valid and meaningful.
Introverts Like Deep Conversation
When introverts are asked about the weather or any other common focus of small talk, they will often come across as very awkward (or even standoffish) in their responses. This is because the typical introvert doesn’t know what do with this conversation and needs to discuss substantive topics in order to connect with others.
If you’re an introvert then you probably already know this about yourself. But if you’re an extrovert who is trying to build bonds with introverts, remember to go straight for current affairs, feelings or interesting new developments in science to get the conversation going.
(TIP: Get more tips on engaging in a productive and positive conversation here!)
Introverts Need Peace And Quiet To Process
Introverts doing Law of Attraction work need to set aside specific time to reflect in silence. Without this peace and quiet, they won’t be able to properly set goals, process new information or tune into their feelings.
If this describes you, consider setting aside at least 30 minutes each day for undisturbed reflection time. You may see major benefits in your manifestation ability.
Meanwhile, if you’re an extrovert dealing with introverts, let them come to you to tell you when they want to talk about a recent significant development in their lives.
Introverts Need Time To Prepare For Socializing
There’s nothing an introvert finds more confronting or unpleasant than someone randomly turning up at their door or suddenly calling them and asking them to come out in ten minutes.
It’s important for introverts to know about social engagements in advance. This is so they can gently get into the right frame of mind to enjoy themselves. It is especially useful information to remember if you’re extroverted but are romantically interested in an introvert. You’ll have much more success asking to meet up for a date in a week than tomorrow, of example. And consider texting rather than calling, at least when the communication is unannounced.
Introverts Value Personal Space
Sure, it’s normal for everyone to need their own personal space. But introverts place a true premium on this notion. It’s particularly relevant to their homes, which they may only open to specific people and which they probably won’t want anyone else to mess with (e.g. by looking through things, leaving dirty dishes around or suggesting furniture readjustments!).
Respect an introverts space. Therefore, you’ll communicate respect for them as a person.
Introverts Do Like To Talk
The average introvert is very good at listening. They tend to be capable of tuning into the deep feelings or thoughts beneath the words being said. However, this doesn’t mean they are uninterested in talking, or that they won’t mind if you talk to them non-stop for hours!
If you’re an extrovert, monitor how much you’re monopolizing the conversation with an introverted friend. Every now and again, try asking a curious question to ensure the person has a chance to shift topics or share their own feelings.
Introversion Isn’t A Mental Health Problem
If you’re an introvert, you’re probably painfully aware that introversion is commonly described as something abnormal, undesirable or “fixable”.
Meanwhile, extroversion is often promoted as the goal, or the hallmark of confidence and good mental health. Please remember this is inaccurate! It’s perfectly normal to be an introvert. There are many other people out there who are just like you.
You just need to learn what works for you and act accordingly, authentically living as an introvert is far better for your well-being than faking extroversion.