11 Relationship Tricks That Make You Fall In Love Again
No matter how happy you are with your partner, all relationships require consistent work. If you devote some attention to relationship maintenance every day, you dramatically reduce the chances of conflict, boredom and ultimately heartbreak.
Here are 11 tricks that will help you do just that…
1. Keep Your Phones Off During Quality Time
Whether you’re having a romantic dinner date or catching up each other’s news, nothing ruins the mood like one of you taking a phone call or reading a text message. And it’s worse still if you actively choose to scroll through your Facebook feed or check your email!
Nurture your relationship by switching off your phone (or at least turning it to silent mode) and paying proper attention to your partner.
2. Go To Bed At The Same Time
It’s not always easy to synchronize bedtimes if you have different work schedules or family responsibilities, but it’s a surefire way to boost intimacy. This isn’t just about creating more opportunities for sex—it’s about feeling connected, relaxing together and having a chance to cuddle.
If you’ve noticed the spark waning in your relationship and you realize you’re not going to bed at the same time as your partner, ask yourself why.
3. Make Small, Thoughtful Gestures
You might think it’s obvious that small gestures help you keep love alive, but you may well underestimate the power of such actions.
There’s huge scope for loving, fun and compassionate behavior here—you might just send a text during the day telling your partner you’re thinking of them, give them a tender hug when they come home, do a chore you know they hate, or pick out a little gift that suits their style. All of these gestures show you are thoughtful and caring.
While most people using the Law of Attraction with the goal of love in mind will do so when trying to create a new love, you can use much the same techniques to deepen a relationship you already have.
For example, try visualizing you and your partner becoming closer (or regaining the level of closeness you used to have), and do this several times a day. If you think your partner shares your goal of becoming a happier, more intimate team, ask them to join you in visualizing.
5. Do Something New Together
Sharing a new experience helps to make you closer—especially if it’s something exciting that pushes you out of your comfort zone. Consider a spontaneous trip to a place you’ve never been, learning an interesting skill together at a class or workshop, or bringing something new into the bedroom. The possibilities are endless!
6. Don’t Criticize Or Blame
Distance or discord can tempt you to be critical, or to accuse your partner of being primarily at fault. However, before you say something harsh, think about it for a moment. First, consider whether it really has to be said at all.
Secondly, if it does need to be said, ask yourself whether they might be a more tactful, empathic way to say it. For example, instead of saying “Why do you never do anything for the kids?!” say “I was wondering if we could sit down and talk about a better way to sort out who is responsible for different things we do with the kids.”
7. Express Gratitude
Think about how great you feel when you know you—or something you’ve done—is truly noticed and appreciated. If you offer that same gratitude to your partner, you can instantly improve your connection.
Many people feel taken for granted after many years in a committed relationship, and frequently saying a sincere “thank you” is one of the best antidotes there is.
8. Focus On What’s Right
On a related note, focusing on the positive—i.e. what your partner does right—will also naturally help to manifest a more satisfying romantic relationship. So, it doesn’t just matter that you say things like “I really love it when you ____” and “It makes me happy that we _____.”
It’s equally important to think about your partner in positive terms, emphasizing appreciation and deemphasizing imperfections (which still seeing areas for productive growth).
9. Make Yourself Vulnerable
Falling more deeply in love requires really opening yourself up and letting the other person see into your heart. This requires deliberately making yourself vulnerable, and sharing your emotions transparently.
Let your partner know about your worries and insecurities, and be candid about your desire for change. As with potential criticism, however, be careful—focus on being both congruent and loving at the same time.
10. Plan Time Away
It isn’t just going on vacation that matters—the very act of planning together, choosing a destination and picking a hotel can spark excitement and camaraderie in your relationship.
When work or family obligations are getting exhausting, planning a trip away is also a great reminder that better times are coming, and that you’ll have quality time to reconnect soon.
11. “Date” Your Partner
Finally, you can create a sense of falling in love again by actively dating your partner, as you did when you were once trying to get their attention and win their affections. Think of what you’d do to make them feel special and wanted if you were just getting to know them, and do it now.
Meanwhile, remember how excited and joyful you used to be just at the sight of their face, and try to reconnect with that feeling.