10 Signs You’re Doing Well In Life (Even If You Don’t Feel Like It)
It can be tough to judge whether we’re actually doing well in lives. Often, we rely on allegedly objective markers of success, or seek validation from others. In addition, many of us err on the side of assuming that we don’t deserve to be proud of who we are and what we’ve achieved.
Are you wondering whether you’re really doing well in life, or preoccupied by the idea that you’re not? Here are ten signs that let you know you’re doing a great job!
1. You’ve Learned From Your Experiences
It’s not a lack of struggle that defines your success—rather, it’s what you’ve done with your struggles that will decide whether you’re doing well in life. If your challenges have taught you something useful that you still apply and learn from today, you’re richer for having had these experiences.
In addition, further down the line you may find that it is these very obstacles that have ensured you made your way to where you needed to be.
2. You Can Look On The Bright Side
As well as looking for useful lessons, it’s great to be able to see the good side of any situation. You’re attract so much more positivity into your life if you see a thread of happiness and opportunity running through your life (instead of one of misery and pessimism!). People who’re doing well invariable have this gift.
3. You Accept There Are Things You Can’t Change
It’s hard to accept that you can’t control everything, and your personal development is on a positive course if you’re able to devote the bulk of your attention to the things that you are able to change. Obsessively worrying gets you nowhere, so congratulate yourself if you’ve developed a habit of identifying pointless stress and redirecting your energy.
4. You Are Not Afraid To Seek Help And Support
You’re doing well in your life if you can recognize that there’s nothing weak about asking for help when you need it. In fact, being able to seek support proves that you’re able to practice self-care, which is what keeps you resilient and gives you the resources to succeed. And remember that great accomplishments take teamwork—something you can clearly do if you know when to reach out.
5. You’re Open To Love
It can be scary to let other people into your heart if you’ve been hurt before (or even just fear being hurt), but you’re also opening yourself up to so much more happiness if you give people a chance. So, if you find yourself able to do this, be excited about all the opportunities this opens up for both—both platonically and romantically.
6. You Have Food, Water And Shelter
While this point doesn’t necessarily result directly from your own accomplishments, it’s important and sobering to remember that many people don’t have safety at night or a steady supply of food. So, if you go to bed at night in a comfortable room, have access to water and can always expect three square meals a day, there’s a very significant sense in which you’re doing well.
7. You Reject Toxicity
If you’ve raised your standards and no longer tolerate bad behavior from other people, you’re doing well in your emotional life—you’re holding others accountable for their actions, and demanding respect. Sure, it’s not always easily to readily identify and then sever toxic connections, but what matters is that you get there eventually.
8. You Have An Internal Source Of Self-Esteem
On a related note, another important sign that you’re doing well in life is that your self-esteem comes from within. When you have an external locus of evaluation, you’re at the mercy of other people’s whims and hang-ups, and your self-worth will never be stable. If you rely on your own judgement in determining your value, you’ll be happier and healthier.
9. You Can Appreciate Yourself
Being able to acknowledge your good qualities doesn’t make you a narcissist. Ideally, you should know and be proud of your own strengths, as well as acknowledging the areas in which you would benefit from working a bit harder. If you have this mixed, realistic picture of yourself and can feel comfortable with it, your maturity is to be commended!
10. You Can Forgive
Holding on to anger and resentment undermines your physical and emotional health. While it’s a good idea to draw clear boundaries and only associate with those who treat you properly, don’t mistake this for permission to hold a permanent grudge. If you’ve learned how to let things go, and forgive others—including yourself—then you’re doing very well indeed.